So today is Ian’s last two-a-day. Tomorrow he will get his last dose of chemo before being transplanted on Tuesday. Today it felt like things have actually gone fast.
A bunch of Ian’s buddies came by today to play a game called Munchkins. It’s pretty much a kind of complicated card game akin to dungeons and dragons, only sillier. None of us had ever played before and it took us about 2-3 hours of playing to figure out the rules. I’m just going to say it… Kory won the first round because none of us knew enough to see he was cheating. I won the second round because I’m awesome. Dallas won the the last round because by that time we were going on 6 hours and nobody cared. The game was actually really fun and it got us all asking “so what was the deal with dungeons and dragons?” As in, why was that bad to play? Luckily kit was there and she has prepared the beginnings of a doctoral dissertation on the subject. She’d love to discuss it with you.
But that’s all besides the point. We felt lucky to be surrounded by friends today who love Ian. These dudes have hung with him during all seasons of life including this last one.
Cancer can be isolating. People just don’t come around as often anymore. I’m sure we’re pretty much a bummer to be around now but I also think that everyone has their own history with cancer. Either they are a survivor them self or they have seen someone they love affected by cancer. All those emotions associated with previous cancer experiences get brought up when you are around it again and sometimes it’s just too much to take. I think some people stay away because they have to so they can keep going.
But there are those despite their own battle with cancer and all the bad memories being in hospital bring up who still choose to be with us during this time. Ian’s cousin and his wife spent the better part of the day with us today. This has been a difficult year for them too. Cancer came uninvited to their home, like it always does, and they faced it. We are happy that our cousin’s wife is well, we are sorry that they had to go through such a horrible experience.
Ian gets his last dose of chemo tomorrow. Melphalan. It’s kind of the worst one. It causes mucositis; sores in your mouth, esophagus, and intestines. There are some ways to lessen this side effect and we hope it will be mild for Ian.
I am so thankful to you all for reading my ramblings everyday. Your comments encourage Ian and I so much. Thank you for all your prayers and support.
All phones seem to call Dada 😀